We are living in a time that is lacking in confidence but overflowing with arrogance. Many times these two characteristics are used synonymously, but in reality they are miles apart. Have you ever considered the difference in arrogance and confidence?
- Arrogance says it’s all about me.
- Confidence says I can do anything that’s asked of me.
Confidence is the product of both success and struggle. A healthy dose of struggle, shortcomings, setbacks, etc. provides us with a much-needed humility that is necessary for all leaders. The opportunity for success in the midst of those obstacles provides a very powerful avenue for confidence. I loved teaching my 4 children to ride a bike. My motto was simple, “push and release”. I knew there would be crashes, a few bumps and even some tears shed. I also knew that without my hand on the seat my children would have the confidence to ride their bike on their own. The initials falls were worth the future freedom. I am a firm believer that boundaries are good and we need them as children and adults. However, when those boundaries are not there to protect but simply to promote they can be dangerous. As parents, educators, coaches and leaders it is our job to provide opportunities that are not absent of obstacles. Opportunity protected from obstacles will only lead to arrogance, but opportunity mixed with obstacles can provide a self-confidence that can truly be a positive change-agent in the world. Be mindful of your choices and be diligent to know what you want in your children, employees, students and athletes for the long term. A team full of arrogance will most likely implode; whereas, a team full of confidence will mostly likely over-achieve. Develop a strategy to instill confidence in those you lead and be confident in the outcome that it will produce! “A Better Way”